Thursday, July 14, 2016

The CBS Question that Stopped Me in My Tracks

This post was originally created on February 12, 2016...but I kept it as a draft. I think it is very insightful and that is why I'm publishing it today. I had published it one time before...but changed my mind. Besides that, it was buried in the archives where no one was likely to read it and comment. As the Lord gives me these insightful truths, it brings leaps of healing. I hope it can help and inspire someone else.

I wrote this post over a month ago...but was too self conscious to post it. I don't like people to know my personal struggles. I've been thinking about this post...especially since the anniversary of this loss is rolling closer. February is a difficult month for me. I struggle with Valentine's Day. I even told my husband once that I hate Valentine's Day and that I don't want to celebrate it. Buy me chocolate and flowers on any other day of the year....but don't buy it on that day. He hasn't always listened to this advice. my quest to be more honest about myself, I've decided to post it after all.

You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.”
‭‭Psalm‬ ‭51:16-17‬ ‭NIV‬‬


For personal thought: which of the previously mentioned offerings would most involve genuine sacrifice on your part? Why? (Community Bible Study, Study guide for the book of Mark. Page 170)

The offerings mentioned:
  • a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart (Psalm 51:16-17....the verse written out above in red)
  • praise (Hebrew 13:15-16)
  • mercy and acknowledgment of God (Hosea 6:6)
  • our bodies and mind (Romans 12:1-2)

I stared at the question for several minutes while I considered each one of the choices, trying to decide what my answer would be.  I came to the first choice: the broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart. "Well...I've gotten that one down," I thought to myself. I was about to look at the next choice when a second thought came into my mind. "But do you? Do you really have that one down?" I stopped and thought about it. I decided that I don't have that one down at all.

That one seems to be giving me the most difficulty. It seems like I actually hold onto my broken heart and my broken spirit. When I sense it slipping away...I grip it a little tighter...being afraid to let it go. I can't seem to sacrifice it entirely. Or is it that I won't sacrifice it? Perhaps I am afraid of losing the little bit I have left of something long ago lost. Really? Is that it? I can tell myself that this is foolish and faulty thinking. Do I really want this pain in my life? No! I hate it!

Then why can't I get rid of it? Why can't I just sacrifice it and be done with it? I know it is wrong...and yet I hold onto it. I can't...or won't really let it go. How do I put something on the alter that I have held onto for so long? There have been times when I've thought it is gone...but then there it is, back in my grip again. Must it always be a continual sacrifice? Again and again? Can't I just sacrifice it once and for all? Why must I see it once again in my possession?

I don't seem to have this one down at all.

"Oh, Heavenly Father. I sacrifice it to you. I lay it on the alter! I don't want it anymore!  It is yours."


Melinda VanRy said...

Beautiful, raw post. It would be nice, and so much easier, if all sacrifices could be a once-and-done thing, wouldn't it? Less painful, that's for sure. And maybe someday, when you lay it down, you'll find it stays down. Until that time, if it comes, you'll be a living sacrifice willing to lay it down every time you realize you're carrying it again.

In my life, I've found this struggle can be in a familiar broken, feeling more comfortable and less intimidating than a new wholeness. When we carry something around long enough, we're not sure how to be without it.

None of the others is a once-and-done, either, is it?

Thank you for sharing. And for introducing yourself over at Fruit of Brokenness!

Priscilla said...

Yes. It is like forgiveness. People usually don't have to forgive just once for an offense...but over and over again. It is a continual choice. Eventually it more or less gets settled...but even so, it can pop up again after years so that you have to choose once again to forgive.

I am doing better at choosing to sacrifice my broken and contrite spirit, but it is a continual battle. I must choose daily and it is difficult. It's nice to hear from someone who understands this. Some people in my life think it should be so easy and I don't feel much understanding from them.

Ruth said...

Maybe it's like forgiveness because it is related to forgiving oneself. It's hard, forgiving ourselves. For me, it feels like an indulgence, and therefore a sin. But the Bible tells us not to call impure anything that God has made clean (Acts 10:15). In Christ, God has made us clean, purified us from unrighteousness, if we have confessed our sins. If He has forgiven us, we are foolish and prideful to refuse to forgive ourselves. I am not saying this because I am accusing you of being foolish and prideful, but because I know that I myself am.

Last night I had to try to go to sleep while telling myself that His grace is sufficient for me, and His power is made perfect in weakness (2 Cor 12:9).

Not easy. Anybody who thinks this is easy has no idea.

Priscilla said...

I love your last sentence. It really resonates with me. It is very hard. It is very hard for me to be patient and trust that the Lord's plan is perfect.

anopensketchbook said...

Blessings to you for sharing this. I feel I was meant to read it this morning. I'll keep you in my prayers, Priscilla.